The Modern Beauty Fallacy is all too real and apparent these days.
What is this fallacy I hear you ask?
As a working beauty therapist and and make-up artist I’m privy to all kind of discussions that totally freak me out. I hear models talk about what they haven’t eaten (some of what you read is true). I’ve heard women talking about how sh*! they feel. I’ve heard men talking about how inadequate they feel deep down and I’m just here thinking “What the bloody hell is going on?!?”
I started to question where it has all gone wrong in the minds of people and why the world and our perceptions of who we are are so damaged? Now, don’t get me wrong, I realise this could turn into one long drawn out philosophical conversation about the meaning of life but I’m going to stay in my lane and talk about my experience.
Modern Beauty is a fallacy as it sets every single one of us up to FAIL! At some stage we fall short of all these ridiculous standards that are being shoved in our faces all over Instagram in particular and well magazines will always be just that….. magazines. Standards change, trends change, looks change…they fade actually. We are made to believe that beauty should be this effervescent concept that we are always chasing even though we don’t really know what it looks like but some random ‘Becky’ just told us that that this is this week’s version. Well I call bulls!*t! because even Beyonce herself is still looking for a clue.
We live in a world where many women strive to look like Kardashian Klones (see what I did there!) and actually have no true understanding of who they really are. We’re all either meant to be enhanced and bootylicious or skinny fat with a side serving of flat ass. The thing that has startled me the most though, is that all of this is happening unconsciously. Nobody seems to be asking a really poignant simple question……… ‘ WHY?’.
I understand that the Kim and her family are a force to be reckoned with and yadda yadda yadda and to be honest I’m still not entirely sure what they ‘do’ for a living but my bone of contention isn’t really even with them. It’s with you and I. We are individual and specifically unique. Each and every one of us.
I often think to myself when I’m ingesting (yes taking them in – it’s an active choice) all these images, articles and social media posts ‘Who are these people anyway? And why do they even matter?’ I’ve struggled to come up with an answer and its sent me down the path of why you and I matter.
Modern Beauty is defined by what we see rather than how we train ourselves to feel and the truth is, this is why our approach is all wrong. How you look should be a representation of how you feel in most cases but I’m inclined to think that it has gone very left for the majority of people. We’re not thinking about how we feel, we are only thinking about how we look in the hope that it will change the way that we feel.
Thoughts matter more.
Our own philosophies and beliefs are the basis of our thoughts. They drive every single thing that we do, even the ones that we don’t know that we have. The problem with that in relation to modern day beauty is that the blind are leading the blind! Who is making these rules? What rules are you following? As far as I’m concerned every individual should have their own individual rules because it’s their own unique philosophies that drive who they really are, even when they are faking it to make it!
I’m in a strange position because I realise that I contribute to these standards but I have come to a place where I realise that my job is not impose the standards of the world on my clients. My job is to help my clients and those that I work with, make their own rules.
To whom much is given, much is expected.
I’m taking up that challenge.
It’s a beautiful thing.
There is definitely more to the concept of modern beauty than meets the eye whether you think its a fallacy or not.
Friedrich Engels once said:
So what’s your theory on your own beauty? What actions are you taking based on your theories? Have you even thought that far? What are your must haves and your must do’s? Have you ever asked yourself? Do you know the answers? Who are you anyway? When did you start defining yourself and how is that working out for you? Have you subscribed to the fallacy without realising it?
Its never to early to ask yourself these questions.
The internal conversations that you have with yourself matter more because unlike how you look from day to day, your self talk will ALWAYS be there.
The whole world will spend your lifetime trying to define who you are and it’s voice may be louder but your light is brighter. Please go and shine.
That is all.